Generally, 2017 was a memorable year. I could have skipped it earlier at the beginning of January but I thought not to and decided to face it head-on. Luckily, January was my birthday month. For the sake of this weird reason, I had to trust that the year will be fruitful and unleash the mysteriously hidden treasures by the end of 12 like-folds. January handed over the mantle to February and I was grateful that my birthday wasn’t on 29th otherwise I could have waited for 4 years just to turn one year older. Anyway, despite events and moments appearing and disappearing (I mean it), it was a year that I learned quite a lot. The unexamined life is not worth living but also if what you only do is examining then you are not living.
Among the Life Skill Classes that I attended over the year, there was a lot which was common but 10 of them caught my attention. I had to subscribe to the Attention and paid an Annual fee so that I could be updated. These skills include:
Learning from mistakes
As an Engineering student, the curriculum insists on doing practical and experiments as a way of learning from them, not just for the sake of doing them. Similarly, in life, mistakes are the indication that you are in the life lab trying to come up with an invention or an innovation. Nothing good comes from doing it the first time. It’s the spirit of being consistent in winning and succeeding that makes the product worth an investment. Shying away from mistakes makes you be remembered by your last failure which doesn’t qualify to be a lesson.
“Don’t waste a good mistake, learn from it”
“I’ve learned so much from my mistakes, I’m thinking of making a few more”
“Experiment is simply the name we give our mistakes”
However much you try to make people be pitiful for your mistakes, its human nature that nobody ever will. It’s who we are – it’s in our DNA. Taking responsibility means you stop pitting yourself, stop the blame game, seeking opportunities rather than waiting for your dreams to be offered in a golden platter, working hard to achieve what you want in life, among other DOs and DON’Ts. Iyanla Vanzant would have told you to stop whining. Similarly, we are what we eat daily. Habitual practice of taking responsibility is what defines maturity. The more you take responsibility for your past and present, the more you are able to create the future you seek.
Practicing Realistic Optimism
You always need to have an Aim, an Action Plan, and a tentative Outcome. Sometimes, we are caught up in a fancy and fake optimism that we focus on results without doing anything and weirdly without any objective that relates to the results that we need. Its good to be optimistic, it’s better to practice and make it a habit, but it’s in the best interest to practice a realistic optimism. Don’t visualize success, but instead visualize the steps you will take in order to make success happen. This is a portion of the syllabus that requires every equating formula to have a factor of honesty in it. Investment is as good as not investing at all. Substituting of hard work for instant riches and luck especially in gambling isn’t an investment. Being youth with a lot of time and energy but no cash is advantageous than being old with limited cash, not enough time for your stuff and of course with inadequate energy. The term inadequate is the best suit in describing a retired government chap at the age of 60. Being realistic also depends on the measure you put in place. Being too realistic often leads to the ordinary life which is the common path to mediocrity.
Not being ashamed to cry
As an Africa Son initiated in tough traditions of manhood; crying is not only considered a sign of weakness but a taboo. Sometimes, we are usually blindfolded by the sign forgetting the cause, intention, or the motive behind a certain instance and circumstance. There is always a sense when Johnny Depp says: People cry not because they are weak but because they have been strong for too long. It’s always clever to cry while in fear but wise to cry with confidence. Confidence is a muscle-like component in our life that many don’t seem to understand. Like a muscle, it needs consistent training, habitual practices, and a die-hard hacker mindset. Kids are the strongest and that’s why they cry. Growing with weaker humans turns them into weak creatures. The same reason as to why we cried and dreamt of being pilots, doctor, writers, engineers, and others but after we stopped crying the dreams we had changed.
Nothing that can bring a sense of the past and present than being grateful. It makes logical sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow. Asking “why me?” is essential not only when bad things happen but also when great things happen. Staying present in the moment gives you the power and ability to manage stress and optimizing relaxation. Gratitude gives life the true meaning and the more you practice gratitude the more there is in life to be grateful for.